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Are there some ‘magic’ words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls? Sounds too good to be true but there ARE words that will magically make your ex feel almost obligated to return your call.

Nice huh?…

I am sharing this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 25,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.

So I will answer for you…”How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”



In the Magic Of Making Up, my man T-Dub lays out a complete strategy.

Proceed with caution!

If you use this technique alone, without an ‘overall’ plan or strategy…you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.

What NOT to Say!

Before we get into the actual words you SHOULD sat, let’s go over what messages almost NEVER work.

and worse…

Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.

They typically fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- This message sounds like “Sam please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”

And the EMERGENCY- “Cathy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”

Now, I think you can see why both of those approaches won’t work?

So, I won’t go on about that…

How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage

Two of the most powerful forces in the human psyche are:

*Curiosity &
*Self Interest

And here’s the BIG SECRET!

When you put the two together, you have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’


Let’s look at what you could say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

“Hi Sam. It’s Cathy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?

Sam will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?”
“What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.


Before you call you need to do the “Set Up”…which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing…but needs to be plausible.

But more importantly…


Please have an underlying strategy like is laid out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call.

The Magic of Making Up Shows You How

If you use this technique with no predetermined strategy and they call you back you can and, probably will, do more DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.


This is what I’m telling you…

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!

Click Here for The Magic of Making Up

In your corner,
CJ Sanders


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