An excellent video from my man T Dub explaining the very first move you should make following a breakup.

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Are there some ‘magic’ words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls? Sounds too good to be true but there ARE words that will magically make your ex feel almost obligated to return your call.

Nice huh?…

I am sharing this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 25,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.

So I will answer for you…”How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”



In the Magic Of Making Up, my man T-Dub lays out a complete strategy.

Proceed with caution!

If you use this technique alone, without an ‘overall’ plan or strategy…you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.

What NOT to Say!

Before we get into the actual words you SHOULD sat, let’s go over what messages almost NEVER work.

and worse…

Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.

They typically fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- This message sounds like “Sam please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”

And the EMERGENCY- “Cathy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”

Now, I think you can see why both of those approaches won’t work?

So, I won’t go on about that…

How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage

Two of the most powerful forces in the human psyche are:

*Curiosity &
*Self Interest

And here’s the BIG SECRET!

When you put the two together, you have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’


Let’s look at what you could say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

“Hi Sam. It’s Cathy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?

Sam will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?”
“What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.


Before you call you need to do the “Set Up”…which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing…but needs to be plausible.

But more importantly…


Please have an underlying strategy like is laid out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call.

The Magic of Making Up Shows You How

If you use this technique with no predetermined strategy and they call you back you can and, probably will, do more DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.


This is what I’m telling you…

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!

Click Here for The Magic of Making Up

In your corner,
CJ Sanders

As we all know, break ups can happen multiple times in a persons life. For any number of reasons.
The biggest problem is dealing with the loss of that special someone you feel you should still have in your life.

Here’s where things get complicated. For most of us, the idea of rekindling the love that was lost almost always seems impossible. And for those of us that don’t think it’s impossible, we usually screw it all up anyway. What little chance we did have of reuniting gets thrown out the window with the PS3 and old pictures of happier times when we start all of out begging, pleading, apologizing and brown-nosing.

It always seems like the closer you try to get to home the further she pulls away. The more you tell him that you’re sorry and it’ll never happen again the more defensive he becomes.

You’ve seen the movies.

What you should be doing is working on your game plan. Like the old saying, “Anything WORTH having is worth working for”. It will take work, but luckily for you the fruits of your labors won’t come as hard as it would if you did not have a plan.

If you are reading this you probably had or are having a break up and want to know what you can do about it. Now I’m no Love Guru but I do know relationships. I didn’t learn this stuff from some college course or TV show either. Just straight up real-world experience.

My goal is to help you.

It’s really that simple. In today’s world divorce is at an all time high, families are being divided and, frankly speaking, single parent households are too damn common. Where there’s true love most relationships can be reconciled by simply being equipped with the right game plan.

But first…

Top 10 Ways to Save Your Relationship

1. Make your lover your number one priority

We all have responsibilities that take us away from our families and lovers, and fulfilling those responsibilities is part of being a good partner. But even if you can’t spend as much time with your sweetheart as you would like, you must always make it clear to them that they are still the number-one priority in your life.

2. Learn about your lover’s interests

We all bring unique interests, hobbies and talents to a relationship, and learning about your lover’s tastes and skills is a great way to appreciate them more and share rewarding time together. Learning from each other and experiencing new things as a couple will bring you closer together, make your relationship more exciting and expand your horizons.

3. Brag about your relationship

No one likes a loudmouth who never shuts up about their love life, but telling your friends, family and coworkers about how much you love your romantic relationship is a great way to make your sweetheart feel appreciated and make you excited about your romance. Making it a habit to tastefully mention how thankful you are to have your lover will only make your relationship stronger.

4. Say “I’m proud of you” to your sweetheart

Everyone likes to feel that they are appreciated, and telling your lover that you are proud of them is one of the simplest . . . and least used . . . ways to make them feel good about themselves and your romantic relationship. Whether you’re telling them how much you appreciate the job they do, their role in your relationship, or their sacrifices, “I’m proud of you” are four of the most effective words you can use to save your romance.

5. Lead by example

Keeping score of who’s more romantic in your relationship is one of the worstways to promote romance in your relationship. Just as members of any successful team have learned, the best way to encourage a certain kind of behavior in others is to lead by example. So be more romantic with your lover, but don’t insist they do the same. With enough encouragement, you may be surprised to see them start to come around themselves.

6. Call in sick to work to spend time with your sweetheart

I’m not saying you should try to get fired from your job, but if you’re doing well at work there is nothing wrong with taking a tiny holiday to spend time with the most important person in your life. Briefly putting off other responsibilities to be with your lover is a great way to show them that they are the number one priority in your world.

7. Introduce some competition into your relationship

No, I don’t mean to make your sweetheart jealous by dating another person. But a little good-natured romantic competition–whether it’s through competitive games, contests, sports, or bets–can be a terrific way to add a little excitement, interaction, and playfulness into your relationship.

8. Compliment your sweetheart every now and then

Sure, it’s easy to overdo compliments and come across as over-the-top or insincere. But regardless of whether or not your lover knows how you feel about them, a simple, kind compliment once in a while goes a long way in making them feel good about themselves and your relationship.

9. Get over your fear of coming across as too “clingy”

There’s a big difference between being tastefully romantic with your sweetheart and being “clingy.” Hand-holding, simple kisses on the cheek and other subtle acts of love are nothing to be ashamed of. It shows your lover that you aren’t embarrassed of your romance and will add a much-needed dimension to your relationship.

10. Learn to love yourself

Part of the reason why some people have a difficult time appreciating romantic gestures is that they don’t understand why their lover is so fond of them. Learning to appreciate your own talents, gifts and innate goodness will help you appreciate your sweetheart’s feelings and let you accentuate your best qualities. Ultimately, learning to love yourself will teach you how to love your romantic partner more.

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